With its exploration of marriage and intimacy, "Goodbye Lover" is one of the highest-rated domestic variety shows of the past two years. The two seasons of the program present a total of six couples, presenting a variety of completely different intimate relationships in marriage. This is rare in the field of public media. The direct confrontation and discussion of failed intimate relationships is also the reason why audiences like to watch it.
"Goodbye Lover 3" poster
When the summer heat gradually dissipates, "Goodbye Lover 3" has also started airing. Three couples who are on the road to divorce embark on their 18-day real journey.
Before the launch of the third season, the program held an advance screening in Changsha on August 31, broadcasting 2 episodes in advance for the media. At the same time, the program producer Liu Le, and the observation room old guests Sun Yi, Huang Zhizhong, and new guests Yin Yue Melody and Li Songwei both shared some of their feelings and thoughts.
When asked if this season has the "new identity" mentioned at the end of the last season, Sun Yi said that at that time everyone thought she was going to participate in a reality show, but in fact she was looking forward to it. , will there be a new love story? She joked: "But it's not very satisfactory. There is nothing new. I will work hard after I finish studying this season."
Regarding the overall feeling of the third season, Liu Le explained, "The key word of the first season is crying, the key word of the second season is anger, so the key word of the third season is laughter." Newly added guests Melody and Papi Jiang, It is also because they are funny and sharp. "The more interesting speeches and more relaxed attitude are because I hope that everyone will not feel ashamed about the issue of divorce in the future." Liu Le said.
Group photo of guests at the advance screening of "Goodbye Lover 3"
Love under the "iceberg"
"Every shaky marriage ends with an iceberg." When an intimate relationship reaches the iceberg, and when there is still huge energy hidden under the iceberg, can the ice still melt? At the beginning of this season, the show used the "iceberg" as a metaphor to represent the "unspeakable misery" in marriage. This copywriting comes from the program producer Liu Le. This is the conclusion she got from observing the status of three couples.
"All three couples said that they looked beautiful, and they all said that they looked like a model couple in the eyes of others, but in fact they quarreled very frequently. This was a common feature of the three couples we caught. I thought of Glacier at the time. The only thing above was A small part is exposed, but there is a lot underneath that you can’t see. Later we will see a lot of warmth and deeper love, and there are many relationships and years of affection in it.”
Li Songwei also agreed very much with Bingshan’s description. Based on his consulting experience, this may be what ordinary people’s marriages look like. “I usually do a lot of marriage consultations, and these pairs of guests this season make me feel closer to the old couples in life.” state. In the second season, their conflicts were very intense, even a little dramatic at times, but by this season, their expressions were very everyday, with many emotions buried underneath, like our daily Marriage. But under the calm and quiet surface, there may be a very passionate love."
Liu Le explained the logic of the selection, "Every year's selection will be comprehensively considered, that is, their various story types are put together to inspire each other. This is very important. Secondly, among all the relationships we screen, we select those who we feel have the potential to Stories that are representative, relatable and moving.”
Of course, before confirming these three pairs, Liu Le also admitted that persuading the guests is the most difficult step in the entire process, taking up 60%-70% of the energy. “Every season, I am stuck in finding people. The biggest difference is that People are different, because people represent what kind of stories I will tell this season. This show is too difficult to find, and two people have to be willing, which is extremely difficult. I often encounter only one side who is willing. The guests in each season are all There was a very long process of persuasion.”
She gave an example. In fact, she had a chat with Fu Seoul in the second season, "I know she has some confusions like this, and it took a long time to convince her, nearly a year. If there is a fourth season, It is possible that you will see the guests I have been chatting with for four years. Because it is not an ordinary program, it is about life, and as a guest, you may have to consider more dimensions. It is not easy for us to see these three pairs of protagonists "." Liu Le expressed at the scene that he hoped the audience would understand more about the couples who are willing to appear on the show, even if they may have some inappropriate and inappropriate expressions, "after all, they are real people."
This season’s guests Fu Seoul and Liu Yi
surprising contrast
Among the reality show couples in the third season, the most surprising ones were Fu Seoul and Lao Liu, a middle-aged couple.
In many previous programs, Fu Seoul, who frequently mentioned his marriage, showed the family image of a happy wife. He even held a "wedding" in a variety show, but even so, the marriage journey still came to the point of divorce. stand. Due to Fu Seoul's busy schedule and Lao Liu's "free time" at home, the pace of their lives became increasingly different and the distance between them became further and further.
Not only were the audience surprised that she was on the show, Huang Zhizhong, a good friend in the industry, was also surprised. He said that he had never known Fu Seoul's relationship status before.
"To be honest, I was really surprised and admired when I watched it. Because she actually didn't mention any spoilers to me in her life beforehand. I think this requires courage and being honest about one's own behavior, so I'm quite I admire it." He also said that even though he learned the news on the show, when he met Fu Seoul again later, he tried his best not to talk about the topic, "I was very curious after the recording, and even some activities I will meet with her, but I try not to talk about it first because I know I will have to record it later, and I am afraid that it will affect my subsequent views or become too personal."
Compared to Huang Zhizhong, Li Songwei knew it in advance, but the same thing was that he also admired Fu Seoul's courage.
"She came to Seoul to ask my opinion before, because she herself was a little hesitant and had many concerns about whether to participate in such a journey. Although it was Lao Liu who proposed the divorce, she might not go on it. Yes, so I am indeed very courageous. My final opinion is that this show may have a fourth and fifth season, so we can not be so anxious for now. But one day she suddenly told me that she had decided. She said that I needed to do this. To face it, I admired him very much at that moment.”
Not only that, Li Songwei believes that Fu Seoul and Lao Liu's marriage is more representative in the show, and it is also a couple that he wants to see the direction of. "The show may let us see the deep waters of marriage and love. It is not a simple matter." It is a small problem that can be solved through a certain principle or a certain concept, but after many years, what is the problem that cannot be solved?"
Wang Sleepy and Zhang Shuo
It is worth mentioning that Wang Shuo and Zhang Shuo, a young couple born in the 90s, told about a knot on the first day of their trip: there was a marriage disturbance against the bridesmaids at the wedding, but Zhang Shuo did not handle it well. Regarding this topic, Li Songwei also expressed his views on this matter at the scene, believing that it is related to the insufficient "education" of men.
"When we watched in the observation room, we were angry, but on the other hand, we seemed to understand something in our hearts. A boy may be in his own growth environment, and he really has no way to perceive why some The matter is such a big injury or pain to girls, because we don't want to turn this matter into a personal accusation, we want to look at a structural factor. I don't think this is upbringing, because upbringing seems to be I am still pushing this matter to the family. I think it may be that men in the whole society lack some knowledge in the process of growing up, so that we can have empathy and empathize with other people’s feelings. I realize that many girls walk outside alone at night. If someone follows behind and there are footsteps, they will be afraid. We don’t have this experience ourselves, so we really need to hear what others say. So I don’t think That thing is a certain person's fault, and through this program we can raise more people's awareness and put themselves in another gender's shoes."
The guests in the observation room have already watched part of the journey of the reality show. Sun Yi said with a smile that she likes Wang Sleeping very much. Be brave, we girls should be as brave as her to express.” Melody also commented on the three boys, “I can understand Lao Ji a little bit more, and Lao Liu really feels too boring. After you communicate with him, you may feel very uncomfortable. It's not his fault that he's tired. Zhang Shuo is naive and very tired. He needs to educate himself first, and then we'll talk about it. Now I think communication is very important."
Wang Shiqing and Ji Huanbo
Melody: A new journey after divorce
In this season, Melody Yin from Taiwan is a high-profile new member of the observation room. After all, she just announced her divorce a few months ago. Liu Le, the producer of the show, also said frankly that it was the news that made her want to invite Melody to be a guest on the show, "I always liked Melody very much when she was in "Kangxi Is Coming". Her descriptions of many small details are full of storytelling. I think she may have many new and different feelings or changes in emotions now."
Melody
And Melody herself agreed without hesitation after receiving the invitation call. She said that she has been a loyal viewer since the first season. It broadcast all the things we will encounter in life, and I said it was great, everyone spoke out for this person in marriage."
In the show, couples of different ages have different expectations for marriage. Melody shared her views on marriage. She said, "Girls are exploring themselves between the ages of 20 and 40. They may long for love and have a preconceived notion of marriage. , you think I am a princess, and a prince came to save me, so we rode a white horse to the palace, as it is written in the cartoon. But no one told you, what happened to the days after the prince married the princess This is the real life. I think this is worth exploring. No matter how old a person is, intimacy is very important. Everyone is actually exploring their own value in the relationship.”
Melody spoke in the observation room of "Goodbye Lover 3"
"In an intimate relationship, there are actually many things worth learning. How to get along, how not to let yourself fight, how to improve yourself and each other in the relationship are very important. Marriage is everyone's own topic. , Everyone knows that marriage and relationship should be managed well. Everyone understands the truth, but life is lived by oneself, so in every relationship and every marriage, everyone will encounter their own situations and changes, and this is not the case. I think that in the end, when you find that you may need to make some changes in this relationship, how to deal with it is something that everyone must think for themselves.”
This is the first time for Melody to do an observation variety show. She also believes that through the observation of the three couples, she has gained a lot of thinking and even healing. I have thought about it so clearly from an angle, because people always look at it from their own point of view first. We record the program to heal and learn. "Goodbye Lover" is educational, allowing us to re-understand ourselves and do things differently s Choice."
Melody spoke in the observation room of "Goodbye Lover 3"
In the meeting, it was mentioned that in a program not long ago, Melody said "Well, let me tell you, the rest of my life will be wonderful", and she also shared why she had such emotion and how she thought about it Come to this sentence.
"And I think that no matter what kind of emotional state a woman is in, you should continue to feel that your future life will be more exciting than the first half of your life. When you are 40 years old, you should live more clearly. You should see many things more clearly. If I am thorough and understand myself better, then I will be very open, live a good life, and be the best version of myself.”
This time, what do you think of these three couples who have not yet divorced? The pilot film has been launched. Starting from September 5, the third season of "Goodbye Lover" will be broadcast exclusively on Mango TV every Tuesday at 12 noon.
