The TV series "Happy Parents" is a work that vividly depicts the current family and school education ecology in the form of light comedy. The male protagonist is Zhang Jiayi, who has always been stable in the field of realistic themes, while the female protagonist Dai Jing is played by Chen Hao, who has rarely appeared in public in recent years.
For Chen Hao, there were many reasons for starring in the play: he had never acted on a similar subject before, he wanted to cooperate with Zhang Jiayi, and the filming was in Beijing... But the most important reason was that he resonated with many details in the play. "When I read the script, there were four words: I feel the same way."
Chen Hao, like Dai Jing in the play, is a mother of many children and has to take care of work at the same time. "I especially hope that the audience can also feel the closely related sense of identity that I had when I first read the script. I hope that the audience will think, 'Isn't it me?', or a mother said, 'Isn't this me? A slice of life?'"
"Happy Parents Group" Poster
Parent Group: The “inevitable thing” for Chinese parents
Today’s parents are inseparable from the “parent group” in their children’s life and education. “Many parents will stick to the top of this group for fear of missing any relevant information in the group, causing their children to miss or miss the teacher’s arrangements. "Chen Haoxiao said her observation.
She said that like Dai Jing in the play, she is a parent who lurks silently in the parent group. She basically doesn't speak out much. She receives key information and does what needs to be done, and reminds the children when they need to be reminded. "I'm not a particularly good mother, and I never thought that my child must be first or second in the class."
Many of the plots in the drama are something Chen Hao will encounter in her life. For example, in the drama, the mothers of the parent group compete to be the director of the family committee. Chen Hao understands it particularly well, "because they feel that this can gain some benefits for their children." Welfare."
Chen Hao told her own observation. On a certain Teacher's Day, the parent group she was in discussed raising funds to buy gifts for teachers. It was also a part of the parents' wishes. After buying, someone must give it to the teacher. Who represents it? Those are usually the children of the more active parents in the family committee. "A few children gave gifts and flowers to the teacher, and the teacher hugged them and took photos happily. Then some other children were inevitably a little disappointed. Some parents would ask, everyone paid for it, so why only this How many children are going to show their faces?" Chen Hao said, "But in fact, other mothers have paid more in the family committee than we mothers who don't take the lead or rush to the front."
In the parent group, parents come from all walks of life, and their views, experiences, backgrounds, and cultures are always different. And the growth and education of their children are what parents are most concerned about. Under tight pressure, these trivial but subtle things become difficult. happens sometimes. In "Happy Parents Group", we avoid amplifying conflicts into social anxieties, but instead contain them in a style that makes everyone smile. In addition to the relaxed atmosphere, there are also things that can arouse some thinking.
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Choice: Pay for your choice
In the play, Dai Jing, with the help of her parents and the support of her freelance husband, was able to spare more time from raising her two children and devote herself to work, becoming a corporate executive. "Once you have children, it is almost impossible to work as wholeheartedly as you did when you were alone. I believe that a successful working mother must have strong support and dedication from her family. It is not easy for mothers, and they must be good Only by allocating her energy appropriately can she take care of work and family."
Chen Hao admitted that in recent years, she has mainly focused on her family and children. "The reason why I rarely film for such a long time is that the profession of actor requires you to go to the set immediately, and you can't go home for three to four months or even half a year. This was no problem when I was single, but after having children, you always have a problem. I worry about whether my children are well and whether they are sick, especially when they are young, it is really difficult to leave for three or four months just for work."
"It is basically impossible to choose to become a mother and still want to maintain the same living status as before." Chen Hao said that after entering the family, she made adjustments to her personal time and energy. For a long time, she was also looking for a life. and career balance. "When the children were very young and needed more of their mother's company, I tried not to film. Now that they are older, I feel that I have met the right role and script and have the ability to balance time and energy, so I only film. "
From "That Mountain, That Man, That Dog" to "Pink Girl", Chen Hao has created many classic characters. For a long time, he has been a "national goddess" actor. For the sake of his family, he has reduced his work output and exposure in his career. . "Do you feel it's a pity to make sacrifices in your career for your children?" the reporter asked.
"I won't, because I have already thought about it when making a choice. Since you have chosen a new identity, you have to change and pay for the new identity. The focus and content of your life will change." Chen Hao opined. , life is about making multiple choices all the time. "Now that you have chosen, you must pay for your choice and then fully accept the results."
Stills from "Happy Parents"
Education: Have strong determination
Although "Happy Parents Group" is about primary school, the academic pressure and competition of children cannot be underestimated. Chen Hao also lamented that Chinese parents sometimes have to compete because they live in a competitive atmosphere. "I am already a very Buddhist parent, and I don't expect my children to stand at the top of the pyramid, but you don't want to be the last one."
One time, Chen Hao found that her children's mock exams were all about things they had never learned before, so she asked the teacher, but the teacher said that she needed to "find out everyone's mastery of the knowledge points" first. She felt even stranger. She hadn't learned yet, so what was there to master? As a result, the child told her: 80% of the children in the class can do it, only she and a few children can't, because most of the children have previews or tutoring. What should we do now? It depends on how parents understand this matter. "I just feel like I paid tuition just so you can learn in school. I don't think about what you must learn or how you must learn better than anyone else. You just need not to fall behind."
Of course, there are times when Chen Hao can't help it. For example, when he meets other parents, he will ask: What are your children learning recently? "I'm also afraid, will my child lose at the starting line because I'm not good at studying?" At this time, parents need to work together, "If dad thinks this matter doesn't matter, then we stick to our own Thoughts. I’m afraid that if I go back and talk about it, the other person won’t be able to sit still, and I won’t be able to stick to this matter.”
Chen Hao feels that children's grades do not represent everything, and everyone is good at different things. "Some children may be average in studies, but they are good at sports, or they are particularly capable in making friends and doing things."
She has a child who learns piano. As a parent, she has never practiced with him for a day. “The child has a very good sense of time. He likes to make planning sheets and arrange his own time very well. He also learns from the Internet on his own. Find sheet music, or make your own arrangement of a certain song.”
Spontaneous interest and desire are the strongest driving forces, making children willing to devote energy and time to study hard, plan and plan for themselves. But Chen Hao also said frankly, "To discover children's talents and true love requires parents to have particularly strong determination and pay more attention to their children."
Chen Hao attaches great importance to children's ability to be independent and responsible, as well as character and emotional intelligence. "Be honest and kind, make more friends, tolerate and accept the shortcomings and advantages of your friends, be able to empathize and understand others, and form your own correct Values are more tolerant." But she also said with a smile, "I am also a mother for the first time, and I don't know whether it is right or wrong. But the parents and the children confirmed the direction together and crossed the river by feeling the stones together. "
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Performance: Experience hundreds of lives in a limited life
In addition to being an actor, Chen Hao is also a teacher at the Central Academy of Drama. She often tells her students, “While you are not famous yet and can still blend in with the crowd, take the subway and go to the vegetable market to look around. Observe others and chat with all kinds of people. When you become famous, you will wear black glasses and a black hat, and you will be surrounded by people wherever you go. How can you observe life?" Chen Hao was worried about the students. Don’t forget that you haven’t seen this character before or don’t know how to act that character, so save more “wealth” for yourself now. “Wealth” refers to experience and observation.
Chen Hao believes that life is the source of creation. The richer the understanding of life, the deeper the understanding of characters. "In fact, actors' understanding of life and characters, sometimes they really can't understand or feel, so they can't perform well. The richer the experience, the deeper the cognition. Having experienced the ups and downs of life, and then returning to shaping the characters, You will feel at ease. I believe that my understanding of characters now must be much deeper than when I was 20 years old. This is what life has taught me."
She also often tells students: Actors must be able to work from young to old, "because there are various roles for us to play. It actually depends on what your career plan is." Chen Haodao said, "If you are a demanding actor, don't let yourself be influenced by the comments of some viewers who only like your appearance. When you are no longer handsome or beautiful one day, these people may no longer like you." What should you do if you follow those younger and more beautiful people?"
As a professional actor, she hopes that students will have a clear understanding of their careers and a clear plan for themselves. She often asks students: Have you experienced the joy of being an actor? "I really hope that they will realize the charm of the acting profession earlier, because they are still relatively ignorant now. They may not know what acting is or how to perform. They never know how to perform until they can perform. Sometimes they just break through the layers. Window paper is so simple, but it is also an accumulation from quantitative change to qualitative change, and this accumulation starts when you find the joy of doing it."
In 2021, Chen Hao took a group photo with the graduating class of Chinese Opera.
For Chen Hao, looking back now, he feels that every role in his acting career is different. "This is where I realize that the profession of actor brings me joy." For all roles, when I get the script, I decide When you play him, you start from a blank piece of paper. Finally, when your character is presented, the painting is completed. "So I feel that it is always an innovative process. I feel that every role is different for me." It’s challenging to say the least.”
She also said, "Maybe my own life is very ordinary, but at work, I will become a variety of people and experience different lives, which allows me to experience different dimensions of life and experience hundreds of things in a limited life. A kind of life. This is the particularly attractive part of the acting profession."
"Pink Girl" broadcast in 2003 was adapted from Zhu Deyong's comic book of the same name, in which Chen Hao played the "heartthrob"
Generations of audiences will find it difficult to forget the "heartthrob" played by Chen Hao in "Pink Girl". Nowadays, many of the "heartthrob's" "Queen's Speeches" are regarded as life mottos by today's young people. So today's Chen Hao, What advice would you give to girls today?
"The most important thing for girls is that they cannot lose their ability to earn money at any time. You can not work, but you cannot lose your ability to work." Chen Hao said, "In addition, there is no need to be defined by others, you can be yourself That's good. I think life is about constantly making multiple choices. As long as you think about the consequences and pay for your choices, there is nothing to be afraid of."
Finally, she added: "Remember, the higher a person's desires, the greater the pressure. You must learn to balance life and career. I think contentment can always be happy." Chen Hao said with a smile, "Am I very Buddhist? "
