Stills from "My Altay".
Psychologists believe that psychological capital goes beyond social capital and human capital and can enable individuals to gain a competitive advantage.
Recently, several popular TV shows have become popular "electronic pickles". In the "healing drama" "My Altay", the literary young woman Li Wenxiu has been frustrated frequently, but she has always insisted on her dream of writing; in the "refreshing drama" "Ink Rain and Clouds", Xue Fangfei faced the "hell start" and never feared power and constantly challenged difficulties; in the "love view growth drama" "Rose Story", Huang Yimei experienced four unforgettable loves and grew up in laughter and tears. The people in these dramas are strong and charming. What can we do to go through the bumps of life as brilliantly as them?
In fact, people like them who face life challenges in a positive way usually have strong psychological capital. Psychological capital is composed of four positive psychological development states: self-efficacy, hope, optimism and resilience.
Self-efficacy is a person's subjective judgment of whether he or she has successfully completed a specific task after making the necessary efforts. For example, Huang Yimei in "The Story of Rose" has a strong sense of self-efficacy in learning. After work, she took the postgraduate entrance examination in a different major, obtained a teacher's qualification certificate while taking care of her children, and learned to fly a plane at the age of 40... She always believed that as long as she studied hard, there would be no problem that could not be overcome, and she constantly challenged new areas of learning.
Hope is a positive state of being able to re-select the path to achieve a certain goal when necessary. For example, in My Altay, Li Wenxiu insisted on recording her life and submitting articles whether she was working in Urumqi or running a small shop in Altay in order to realize her dream of writing. When there was not enough paper, she wrote poems and stories about distant places on birch bark.
Optimism is manifested as a positive explanatory style that attributes current and future good events to internal, lasting and universal causes, while attributing bad events to external, temporary and specific causes. For example, in My Altay, Li Wenxiu's mother Zhang Fengxia continued to sleep even when her bed collapsed, found her lost grandmother, and compensated the villagers herself when she was cheated of money. She would not fall into mental exhaustion because of temporary difficulties, but lived freely and positively.
Resilience refers to the ability to recover, adapt and grow quickly when faced with challenges, pressure or adversity. In "Mo Yu Yun Jian", Xue Fangfei faced the betrayal and hurt of her ex-husband. Although she was in pain, she worked hard to live a good new life in Zhennu Hall, Jiang Family, Mingyi Hall and Luyang, accumulating strength for the future redress.
Psychological capital is a positively developing psychological state. Psychologists believe that psychological capital goes beyond social capital and human capital and can enable individuals to gain competitive advantages. Social capital refers to resources such as a person's social relationships and work relationship networks, while human capital refers to resources such as knowledge and skills that a person has accumulated through learning and experience. Psychological resources, like social capital and human capital, have been found to have a positive effect on the development of individuals and enterprises. So how can we improve psychological capital and live a shining life? We can improve psychological capital from four aspects: self-efficacy, hope, optimism and resilience.
Improving self-efficacy: Experience success and learn through observation.
Psychological research has found that there are four sources of self-efficacy: personal experience of success, vicarious experience, persuasion from others, and emotional and physiological influences. Specifically, personal experience of success and failure refers to the direct behavioral experience gained by people through their own practice, which has the greatest impact on the formation of self-efficacy; vicarious experience refers to the knowledge of self-possibilities gained through observing and learning from the behavior and results of others; persuasion from others' words refers to the praise, encouragement, evaluation, suggestions, and advice from important others; a good physiological state and positive emotional response will improve our judgment of our own abilities, while physical fatigue and strong negative emotions will reduce self-efficacy.
In "The Story of Rose", Huang Yimei took the initiative to successfully contact Mr. Teng for General Manager Jiang; Su Gengsheng followed General Manager Jiang as soon as he graduated, learned her management style, grew up quickly, and was promoted quickly; Huang Yimei and Su Gengsheng are very good friends, and they will contact each other as soon as they encounter failure and confusion to seek support; Huang Yimei and Su Gengsheng have always been doing work that they are interested in and good at, and work can bring them a sense of accomplishment and pleasure. Therefore, directly experiencing success is the simplest and fastest way, you can indirectly observe and learn from others, and when you are not strong enough, you can also seek encouragement and support from people around you, or try relaxing and pleasant activities, all of which can improve your sense of self-efficacy.
The improvement of hope: break down the goals and enjoy the process.
If we set ourselves a "warning" from the beginning and set unattainable lofty goals, we will easily become discouraged and lose hope to move forward. We can set lofty ideals, but we must also break down and refine our goals so that we can be down-to-earth and move towards our ideals step by step.
Xue Fangfei in "Mo Yu Yun Jian" did not attempt to rise to the top overnight and rashly report the person who hurt her. Instead, she left Zhennu Hall, entered Jiang's family, and then entered Mingyi Hall, winning the annual exam in one fell swoop... At the same time, she secretly investigated the case and moved towards her goal step by step. In addition to breaking down the goals, Xue Fangfei did not just look at the results of winning or losing each challenge. She also made many good friends in the process, helped others, and enjoyed the fun of overcoming obstacles and achieving her goals.
Improve your optimism: forgive the past and appreciate the present.
Tolerating the past means accepting your past failures, and appreciating the present means being grateful and affirming the positive aspects of your current life. This is a way to cultivate an optimistic attitude.
In My Altay, Li Wenxiu had been fired from the restaurant, but she did not forget to straighten the crooked portrait before leaving; the house was leaking, so she used plastic bags to collect the water and drain it, smiling and appreciating her own creativity: "Welcome to Wenxiu Hydropower Station." The so-called optimism is just like what Li Juan wrote in the original work of My Altay: "Don't always linger in the memories of the past, don't always want yesterday's rain to wet today's luggage. Yesterday's sun can't dry today's clothes."
Improving resilience: internal and external support, and making good use of resources.
If you want to improve your resilience, internally, do not be limited by temporary difficulties and believe in your own power of growth; externally, reasonably seek support from others and external resources to deal with difficulties.
No matter how difficult the challenges Xue Fangfei encounters in "Ink Rain and Clouds", she will always find ways to overcome them; when her personal strength is not enough to overcome difficulties, she will also seek support from the resources around her, such as Mrs. Liu, her father, grandmother, cousin and others.
Psychologist Seligman said: "When a country or nation is plagued by hunger and war, the task of social science and psychology is mainly to resist and heal trauma; but in peacetime without social unrest, their main mission is to make people's lives better." We can emulate the charming characters in hit dramas and enhance our own psychological capital, which helps to develop positive psychological qualities and enhance positive emotional experiences.